While it is bound to happen at least once to everyone at some point in their life, nothing can prepare you for the pain of a broken heart. Amicable or otherwise, the end of a relationship is an arduous and confusing time that can negatively affect many aspects of your life. While it may seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, there are some strategies one can implement to get through the worst parts and back to a happy stable state of mind.
When a relationship dies it’s common to experience the five stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Keep this in mind with your behaviour in the weeks following the breakup. If you see yourself acting out any of these emotions try to take a step back and realise they are part of the grieving process and not necessarily a reflection of normal life from now on.
It is easy in this vulnerable state to put all of your energy into thinking about the other person and the relationship’s minutiae, while neglecting yourself. Try to move forward by focusing on yourself and practicing self-love. This can involve starting a new constructive hobby like yoga, journaling your feelings everyday or taking up a meditation practice. Self-love doesn’t necessarily mean indulgence, so be careful not to try and comfort yourself with substances or material goods as that will only lead to further dissatisfaction.
Accepting a relationship has ended can be hard to do, and is bound to conjure up a lot negative emotions. While it is important to process these feelings and not suppress them it is also necessary not to place blame or resentment for the way things worked out. Remember that just because a relationship has ended, it does not mean it has failed. Instead reflect on the positive things this past partner gave you, and remain open and optimistic about new experiences and lessons that await you in the future.